// I have found//

that the secret to happy relationships is not equilibrium. We often think that the love we offer must be matched by the person that we love. But this is why most relationships fall apart. Because one partner gives less or because the other expects equal treatment and then becomes disappointed by the lack of effort. Most people say that the solution to all this is balance. 

But, no. It’s not.

You want a happy relationship? Outdo each other in love. Be with someone who won’t just want to match what you give but will want to top it. Always. And if you’re both trying to love each other a little extra (the best kind of competition I can think of) then nobody walks away with nothing.